NYE I was talking to a friend who said that the most loving I thing I could do for my spouse would be to humiliate her in court. It sounds like cold shock therapy that might cause her to pause and reflect on life.
I can see the point your friend is trying to make. A narcissist will continue their delusions, until they get a severe enough Narcissistic injury that gets them to hit rock bottom hard enough, so they’ll finally be open to reflecting or making some changes in life. Often that injury has to be at extreme levels of humiliation.
Whether that can be done in a court is hard to say.. It is a platform that gives an edge to arguments that are supported by documentation and evidence; and excessive lying that gets exposed is looked down upon.
But, yes.. it’s also decided by judges who have their own black boxes of how they operate and decide cases. So always a risk of some surprise action. Though they’re still human and you can track their history and tendencies, if you or your lawyer has that access and mental insight…
My personal style would not be to focus on humiliation of them, I would try to disarm, neutralize, or take away her main attack strategies, or goto defenses. Even better if I could either call it out before she can use it, or use the strategy first before she can. Then she’d have to come up with a backup strategy, making her more prone to sloppiness. Of which I’d also (in an ideal situation) have a counter for, or would have already set a trap for.
But the battle is being done in the court system, so knowing those dynamics is important. And keeping things as impersonal, logical, and cold calculating type attitude, generally is a good foundation. Getting emotionally invested or over-invested, typically backfires, and also plays to their strengths.