Newbie Feeling you need to respond to everyone very quickly no matter what?
I wonder if this is a strong impulse and pattern for you?
It seems to resonate with my observation of your posting pattern here…
So does that mean you deprioritize actual communication?? How much do you consider your audience? Do you put any energy towards building a bridge of shared language, topic, interest with who you’re talking to?
Or do you expect others to stay primarily and ONLY within what’s going on in your head?
Another pattern that I’m noticing is that you play innocent and lost. But I sense there is an agenda behind your responses. Do you want us to stand in for some past abuser or partner in one of your emotional flashbacks???
I fell into that trap with my ex-gf multiple times, but she didn’t share enough details of her past traumas, so it was basically guaranteed that I could never respond to help her reach catharsis… Repetition compulsion was essentially guaranteed.. The unconscious mind is so clever….
btw…. some of your comments in other threads I might delete or move here or somewhere else… as they’re off topic and adding more noise and distraction…. I feel somewhat responsible for the forum and particular threads… that they stay on topic and are easy for a 3rd party to comprehend and follow….