(I noticed the time stamp of your reply doesn’t match the list of posts, so I’m guessing you also got that error that seems to be linked to post using the reply button, or quoting another post - argh.. gotta figure out this error)
Fryek but, explain how my comment a red herring/redirect?
My focus was trying to piggy back on the quoted message, on the pornographication of society, pulling from Grannon’s similar observations, along with my own feel of the similar dynamic…
When I’m trying to find language, my mental energy is more towards accuracy to capture the essence of what I’m trying to describe. The redirect (which is very normal and okay in social interactions) which II followed and and perceived as a threat or failed landing…. (most likely I was also emotionally distracted still post processing the weekend’s social gatherings)
Also it had a red herring/straw man type feeling.. which could’ve been my emotional flashbacks from dealing with online communication and trolls… narrow down on one issue, then add attention and a correction… (but this also is also fair game online and not always malicious)
Fryek just pointing out a possible oversight…
I, myself am overly sensitive to triggering people
real-time awareness and calculation of how it will land.
This might describe the key difference between my language skills and yours… you can calculate language considering the audience or particular person… customize it for emotional effect or persuasive power..
I am much much more crippled in this ability… What seems to be going on in my mind, is that I’m spontaneously improvising and searching for language and words that capture the diverse sensory feeling and complex systemic links in my spatial brain. Accuracy, precision and conciseness are more of the ideal I’m trying for when describing things. Impact on the group comes second (if there’s mental space).. And impact on trigger sensitive ears who might protest the loudest and disrupt the group comes third (or isn’t even in my mental consideration).
This is part of my struggle with language, and with newbies in the group. I don’t have a mental map or feel for them, and also less sensory read on zoom. So I’m flying more blind with consideration of the audience and how it will land.
And then when I get flooded with emotional judgment or dissonance from triggered members who overly play victim or do side social jabs from this last recent Sat zoom. I become over-sensitive to how what I might say will land, which causes extra paranoia and vigilance second guessing what I’ll say, as the words are coming up in my consciousness.
(this is getting off topic from this thread, so I might break it off into a different thread in the future, but it also has links to this thread)