Maybe a way to start climbing out.
Find the right balance of control & predictability within your cultural norms and social reality.
This is from Self Efficacy theory, basically same territory of single and double loop learning.
With a balance of both Control & Predictability.
And a balance of internal and external locus of control for both assessments.
Then within Tony Robbins 6 core needs, the 4 basic level needs are paradoxical.
- Predictability is balanced between Certainty & Variety.
- Control is social belonging needs of both significance (space) and love/relatedness (connect)
Here’s list of 6 needs, you get base level needs, then you can adult up, and address Growth & Contribution.
Early rough draft of reframing trust as something you cultivate and develop based on 2 senses of Predictability & Control.
Then linking this chart, if you have good enough predictability and control, then it’s easy to relax, trust, and be more open to play and performing.