I rewatched parts of the video and I see that Skaparixplorer was distorting, sorta straw man, red herring, switching sandbox… or his/her flashbacks & projections were getting mixed up with the video..
Let me try to break down the embedded assumptions and attention re-directions within the comment….
Masterful writing and very tight…. BPD like? Is there going to be any personal responsibility for emotional self regulation in here? or consideration of other perspectives??
Alright I have written and erased a comment several times now
Starting off with personal labor toil, embedded message that implies sincerity? or that it’s very personal to him/her? a ODV Ostentatious Display of Vulnerability????? Because he/she could have just shared the comment without this disclosure of personal effort…
So in that case…. this might be a virtue signal.. Look at me.. I’m writing a comment, with extra care and concern, as I’m advertising that I’ve spent a lot of energy and effort into it…
cause I also don’t want to be rude and I have enjoyed much of this conversation.
Aggressive decency??? (more BPD clues)
and generally when someone starts off with.. I don’t want to … it’s often setup with exactly that message…
I might start doing that, whenever I want to be an asshole, I’ll just start off with a disclaimer.. I don’t want to be an asshole… then I can mind fuck it worse, with an empty compliment after…
Actually… that’s a setup… oh fuck.. that’s good…
Don’t want to be rude, sorta feels like he/she wants to be polite… then add on empty compliment of I’ve enjoyed much of the conversation… BUT the much is a conditional subjective, it leaves it up in the air, what portions are much… and creates an attention hook on the lesser portions that he/she didn’t enjoy….
masterful aggressive decency… looks very decent on the surface.. but very aggressively packed language mastery…
This is the redirect, attention getter… increase of judgment… and a bit of surprise, I don’t even remember the start or know what the next flow is…
In less than 2 lines, I’m disoriented.. lots of effort was put into this comment, masked polite offer to show fake trust and genuine message, then BAM!!! a But Damn, redirect…. some surprise is coming… and I have no idea what’s next…
Oh… there’s also the excess personal vulnerability disclosures, which sorta sets me up to be responsible for his/her feelings, or at least partially to blame for the energy and effort to write a comment for the video…
So perfect time.. for guess what??? Injunctions & judgments
please work on the level of respect you give to the members of your group,
it’s at times unbearable.
even better, vague target…. very shame inducing…. like when I tried to get Claudia B to specifically state what her complaints were about my facilitation… and she dodged, then indirectly said something like host is responsible for group’s triggers… and then I tried to pin down all the members triggers, and she dodged too…
So… Work on.. level of respect?? wtf does that exactly mean??
Apparently it’s just a shaming statement, of you’re not good enough… and you fucking figure it out…
and if you come back to me, I’ll make it a moving target, that is impossible to reach or know…
So.. with the vague shaming comment.. that opens up curiosity on my part… well.. how exactly?
so he/she delivers with next step…. a list of gripes
- Speaking over people,
- sound effects,
- dismissing what people share or
- even putting it down (people’s sharing).
Is this a list of unbearables to who exactly and to what extent?? I’m guessing him/her personally, and then there’s a fuzzy global part… that everyone must also find it the same way??
ohh…. mind fuck… he/she’s doing the same thing to me, that’s being pointed out…. speaking over (BPD overwriting) my perspective or any others, and writing a very clever masked shaming attack, erasing my version of events… and dismissing my sharing, and actively putting it down….
truly amazing…. this video must have really triggered this person… and really bad…
Then he/she jumps to this next line… feels a bit disruptive, but it is part of the context… so it implies that he/she did watch to at least the challenge sparring time…. oh.. opps.. the description says there was a sparring section.. maybe he/she didn’t watch much of the video?
Talk about sparring,
you definitely had me feeling like
I wanted to punch you
(figuratively of course).
This is really cleverly written… Opens with a bridge… sparring… then switches to her feelings (ostentatious display of vulnerability)… then surprise link to violence (aggressive decency)… and the figuratively part, is just being an asshole.. why even bother with that… is that the decency sugar bullshit part?
Ya got some things to work on brother.
Another shaming, but back to super vague… ‘some things’?? is that implying that I’m so fucking broken? but using some as an opposite statement?? can you really deliver vocal tone via written text??? wow… that is fucking amazing…
But you offered interesting points as well,
Opposite flip…. mind fuck… which one is true?? this one, or the prior one…. what can I grasp on??
both are fucking vague…
perfect setup for another judgment or injunction??
This is another great opener for an insult… creates a feeling of simple and easy.. but then follow with some impossible thing… sends a message that the receiver is a fucking idiot for sucking at not being able to do something that’s ‘just’ so simple for most people..
learn how to
- also listen,
- be respectful and
- be more fluid with others,
why put also in front of listen?? ohhhh… it’s tone… implies that don’t listen, or suck at listening.. or busy talking… or busy like him/her giving injunctions onto others?? (god fucking damn BPD emotional contagion and projection, dumping his/her problems onto me with total confidence… damn they’re good at this!)
respectful is a repeat from earlier…. more fluid with others… that’s a bit vague?? and more is a subjective qualifier… more fuzzy injunctions…
Then… look at this amazing close… one word..
is this a judgment and a pointer in one?? implies that I’m not that.. that’s the judgment…
and then it sorta feels like arguing for high ground… virtue signaling on his/her part??
But that’s a good sharp closing… win the high road, and abandon with a harsh judgment..
OK.. let’s go back to my prior roadmap of elements of BPD attacks
So here’s the 4 layers of a common formula of their attacks…
- Shock & Surprise
a. Psychologically suffocate the other until they’re triggered to react or leave
- Sow Doubt & Confusion
a. Play Dumb & Innocent (cover) while sowing doubt & confusion through emotional contagion & dumping
b. Make ignorance plea due to own blind spot,
“I genuinely didn’t realize you were drowning in my presence, and that I had my hands around your neck suffocating the life from your body.”
- Guilt (Moral high ground posturing) - Aggressive Decency
a. Fixate on other’s trigger & over-reaction then pivot to moral high ground.
b. Claim & make a reasonableness plea (mask for judgment & hatred for your interruption & wanting to grasp for air)
- Evoke Shame & dump (suicide/despair, abandonment/exile)
a. Competitive Victimhood - pivot to Victim Plea
b. Ostentatious Display of Vulnerability, signaling of suicide,despair & abandonment
c. Steal & hog the spotlight with Woe as Me pity story (long over-writing monologue of life of loserdom and horrific endless victim)
(masked agenda) to bait you, get you chasing them and to keep you in the game.
Was I surprised and shocked… yes… his/her snapshot was dramatically different than my memory of the experience, eliciting shock and surprise..
Was doubt and confusion sowed… yes… I doubted my memories and performance.. and also confused at what happened, along with what he/she is trying to say with the intentional vagueness and fuzzyness…
Was guilt triggered with moral high ground posturing?? Yes… blalme was all on me… and he/she played moral high ground and virtue signaling, saving and caring for poor pitiful loser victims out there…
Was shame evoked?? yes… lots of ODV… he/she was victim, along with group members who he/she was being spokesperson for…. and he/she hogged the spotlight not with person pity story, but enough with argument of ‘feeling like I wanted to punch you’..
Pretty darn impressive.. to do all 4 of those in just a handful of sentences…
This might be the best attack comment so far???
Definitely one of the most clever, hidden, personal and precise…
Other critiques were more on single issues or their distorted projection…
this one was much more complex.. it was a personal attack on character, soul, and being….