And it’s been a pretty involved back and forth mess with louisegarner in this Sam Vaknin’s IPAM model clip thread:
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I’ve summarized it into 4 screen caps, because it’s just super hard to shorten someone who talks with a wall of words because if I go too short, it loses the feel of that lengthy tiring wall, of possibly word vomit?
Louise gives a pretty good clue with her metaphor of radio channels. Is there that much introject noise, that she can just keep switching channels until she gets a new voice or story that offers a pleasing fantasy?? Imagine how much she’s getting lost with all these inner radio channels, and totally ignoring shared reality??
and I’m warning her with my motives here, that I test people life fire with aggressive challenging…. so if she plays innocent later, that’s her own personal ignorance..
Her version of healing sounds like brainwashing….. over-writing memories and stories which feels very BPD like..
This new theory of addictions, is also window dressing, as it’s not addressing deeper issues and unmet needs that the addiction is proving coping for… I point that out, and challenge her for her expertise.
Check it out, she’s been a nurse, sales manager, and teacher/tutor… and preschool teaching. She gets to shape and mold very young infants?? fucking scary….. and even more of a bonus, she helps moderate a narcissist abuse survivor community within a Christian theme….. guessing she gets to feed off so many people in there….
So I escalate a bit more by trying to do some forced empathy to see if she has any capacity…..
of which she proves she has none, and I theorize she can only give pity and that’s a mask for empathy.
Her claws finally come out, and all that fake sugary cover story is exposed. Her version of life is ordering people around nicely, and when they don’t fit into that model. She gets vicious and directly attacks.
But it’s a pretty darn good case study of how she’s proven the point that things can’t be healed from the inside… and overfocus on folding in, and managing internal content, comes at the expense of ignoring shared reality and external feedback…. in fact, that position turns into a total inner confusion, with layers of fantasy that totally disables any reality testing.
Of which she’s gone to another video comment threads to continue to attack the messenger, because now I’m an all bad object, and no longer a stupid student that needs more schooling.
Now she gets to project her worst qualities onto me.. and if I take the bait and act out those qualities, she can symbolically disown them.
This is quite a clever shared fantasy entrapment dance that she’s likely mastered quite well.
