[Map] EMPATHY as a SUPERPOWER to Master (Advanced Emotional Literacy)

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Covered in zoom meetings: Art of Empathy 3/16 & 3/21, Vulnerability 3/28, 4/18, 4/25

Basic Definitions

Old Road - Amygdala Hijack leads to emotional triangle of The Pity Circle:

50 second overview of the pity circle trap

Alternative Path of Empathic Mastery
5m23s

Visual:

Hierarchy of Empathic skills, foundation is Emotional Literacy & Self-Awareness

Description of skills from Karla McLaren’s model

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Zoom meetings exploring all aspects of emotions, empathy, and communication/negotiation:

3/16/20 Art of Empathy - Myths, limits & misconceptions; ANS, egocentric blindspot (Fear, confusion, safety)
2hr14m

3/21/20 Art of Empathy 2 - Pity Circle & Empathic Mastery Mega Map (Awe, awareness, pragmatic)
3hr06m

5/2/20 Tactical Apathy: FREEZE dynamics (invisible, mirror, label)
2hr18m

7/11/20 Navigating PANXIETY
1hr45m

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Sat 7/24/21 - in person meetup - visual & video clip shared:

4m18s

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3 Levels of Empathy

Nuances of Empathy

Emotional Maps

My breakdown of 6 core emotions linked to needs, skills and virtues

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Translating the language of emotions, what are the unmet needs or actions that need to be done underlying the emotions??

From Karla McLaren’s work - Dynamic Emotional Integration

1 page version

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Therapy in a Nutshell just released a quite good, mostly accurate and precise breakdown in similar territory of Karla McLaren’s Language of Emotions, and she offers warning of excess focus on coping skills.

Very good argument and presentation..

20min

Part of a 30 video series and course titled “How to Process your Emotions”
15min

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Recent breakdown of the 3 core emotions: I’m Mad, Sad and Scared.
with development of disgust, shame and awe as one gets older.

18m53

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My link of 3 goals of mindfulness also link to 3 core emotions

3 core emotions matches the Zones of Regulation model

or emoji flavors

or it could also be linked to head (fear), heart (sadness), and gut (anger).

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Deep Dive into Brené Brown’s Atlas of Emotions book & HBO Max series, along with discovery of her being a vulnerability bully?!

Is Brené Brown a wounded healer bully?? Case study pt1 excerpt 4m32s

4/21/22 Brené Brown & Atlas of the Heart Case study ‘Armored with language’ 1h29m

5/5/22 The Missing Secret to Boundaries? Integrating Hate - Brené Brown Case study pt2 1h07m

5/19/22 CONSIDERATION & Fairness Emotions: Envy/Admiration vs Hubris - Brené Brown Case study pt3 1h58m

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6/16 Common SCRIPTS used by Cry BULLIES ‘Empaths’ 1h38m

6/30 The EMPATHY HOAX! it’s often Imposed SHAME! The opposite! 1m27m

7/9 Self Respect vs Pitiful Whining - Anger/Shame/Hatred pt2 1h09m

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Oh I have a question, but I struggle to find the right words…. but I will try.
Is it possible that one has some “immage” of his or her “ideal self”….but in fact it is just a “part” of “ought self”?

I ask it because I think that this was my own case.

At one side in, those days that I still lived in my family of origin, I did what I could, and believed it was okay to do it, serving other people’s needs. In the same time I wanted to achieve something for or of myself…..
That what I really wanted was never encouraged. I had to blablabla…or I would regret it later…the words of my mother.
In the process of finding some “blablabla” that she could give her approval for….Failure after failure brought me at a certain start of career. But a career with a lot of discontinuity. I did all I could to return to it….to keep the approval of my family. So the “ideal self” to keep striving for that career…each time interrupted by family needs was even a part of what my family wanted….It didn’t come from my soul.
The moment I realized it, I quit. The moment I quit…health issues came up…When health issues started…the process of healing started. And than peeling of the onion started. The deeper the layer…a lot of tears…Not the tears of victim…the tears of having betrayed myself….

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ICS Is it possible that one has some “immage” of his or her “ideal self”….but in fact it is just a “part” of “ought self”?

Do theser visual add anything… ideal vs ought are two different flavors of self in self-discrepancy theory…

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Thanks for adding some visuals.
I got confused by this Theory hadn’t encountered earlier.
I had to sleep over it more than one night. It is just another way to convey what Karla tries to tell us about emotions in relation to boundaries. How essential it is to feel emotions, know what they mean, learn how to be with or within that energy….as only from that positions you can actually get clarity…in what to do.
Being and doing…the eastern approach seem key in this process as well.