You’d think that this feedback could counter-balance criticism..
Deef In other news.. this was a nice surprise… quite a big validation cookie….
But there’s still something to these distorted personal attacks…. I’m slowly sensing it’s using SJW post modern type assumptions… that is very easy to fall into…
It’s a straw man ad-hominem… distortion and exaggeration of the other - keying in one one behavioral trait taken out of context… then contrasted with with distorted moral ideal (saint level expectations)… Then shame, judgment, contempt, implied threat of exile..
Sometimes masked in virtue signaling decency… “I’m trying to help you, or save some third party victim.. or just to help society.” I’m a good person here…!
Though this last one from buildings and food… skipped the labor of work of appearing decent or virtue signaling.. just jump on ad hominem…. and exaggerate for effect… lots of BPD all or northing, black and white type statements…
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My knee-jerk is still to jump in and defend the distortions… But that’s me following them into their sandbox.. letting them lead the conversation… (oh.. that’s also NOT interrupting their fucking distorted POINT)…
CUT people fucking off when they’re being idiots….
Once you fall into the ’you shouldn’t interrupt others’… you lose, cuz they can interrupt you and others with their nuanced fake decency language skills…
So ….. you shouldn’t interrupt others is masked language for.. DON’T FUCKING INTERRUPT MY MONOLOGUE
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The point of the interruptions was to move the conversation on and get it going on towards NEW and different content… pre-meeting several group members OPENLY shared NOT wanting to hear Grannon get lost into politics (I still let that go for a while)… and I wanted Grannon to share stuff that WAS NOT already covered in older videos… I wanted him to get off any sorta pre-scripted answers…
Also…. certain members went into monologue mode themselves, or asked questions to deflect from higher emotions content (intellectualize)… clever acts by them… letting them continue would bleed off more time… and serve what purpose?
…. so I’m still fucking annoyed by these comments.. I think it’s more so the unfair conversational nature of it… people are being insincere and dishonest in their motives…. and I think that’s a big part of my reaction, I want to call out their ulterior motives.. demand some honesty….
But current social norms allows white lies and constant dishonesty and hiding…
even more exaggerated by anonymity of social media, contrasted with the in your face feel of intimacy….
ok.. I’m sandwiching this with my validation cookie, see if that softens the annoyance effect for me?
Deef In other news.. this was a nice surprise… quite a big validation cookie….
Yes….. that’s it.. Head space vs. Heart space… people were pulling the conversation into head space or draining any emotional intensity or charge….. that was part of my motivation to disrupt and redirect towards heart space…
Without disruptions or redirects….. I don’t see of any other way to accomplish greater goals….. extra policing like raising hands on zoom ends up favoring the serial monologuers…. time limits just cuts everyone off, and there’s no group conversation….
In person there’s more tools, on zoom.. the inability of multiple audios at the same time… means I have to use shared audio (sound effects) to fill in that shared audio/cross-talking that could happen naturally in person..
